AYSHA M. HAIDER
The most loving wife, mother, grandmother, and friend
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Our beloved Aysha M. Haider's
Pakistan Memorial Service
was on
8-19-2024
Pakistan Memorial Service
was on
8-19-2024
Our Beloved Aysha M. Haider's
California Memorial Service
was on 8-10-2024
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In honor of our beloved mother, Aysha Haider, we have established a WhatsApp group dedicated to continuing her legacy. This group will serve as a platform for sharing updates on initiatives she loved. It also aims to help us stay connected with her friends who have been an important part of her life.
We warmly invite you to join the WhatsApp group linked / QR below. https://chat.whatsapp.com/HXaQApmKlSJ81iNYV0CWlk 
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How To Support Mom in the Afterlife
In Islamic tradition performing good deeds on behalf of the deceased is believed to benefit them. Several hadiths encourage acts that benefit the deceased. Below are some examples:
Supplication (Dua) and Charity: It is widely accepted in Islam that making supplications for the deceased and performing acts of charity on their behalf can benefit them. A well-known hadith states:
"When a person dies, their deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (a continuous charity like a trust), knowledge which is beneficial (like a research paper or discovery), or a virtuous descendant who prays for them." (Sahih Muslim)
Reading Quran: While there is no direct Quranic verse or Hadith that mentions reading the Quran specifically for the deceased, the act of reciting Quran itself is highly rewarded, and it is a common practice to dedicate the reward (thawab) of Quranic recitation to the deceased.
You can record the quran you read on the link below so we can track complete readings the quran for mom multiple times overPerforming Good Deeds: Many scholars agree that performing good deeds and dedicating the reward to the deceased is beneficial. This includes acts like charity, Hajj, or fasting on their behalf.
Supplication (Dua) and Charity: It is widely accepted in Islam that making supplications for the deceased and performing acts of charity on their behalf can benefit them. A well-known hadith states:
"When a person dies, their deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (a continuous charity like a trust), knowledge which is beneficial (like a research paper or discovery), or a virtuous descendant who prays for them." (Sahih Muslim)
Reading Quran: While there is no direct Quranic verse or Hadith that mentions reading the Quran specifically for the deceased, the act of reciting Quran itself is highly rewarded, and it is a common practice to dedicate the reward (thawab) of Quranic recitation to the deceased.
You can record the quran you read on the link below so we can track complete readings the quran for mom multiple times overPerforming Good Deeds: Many scholars agree that performing good deeds and dedicating the reward to the deceased is beneficial. This includes acts like charity, Hajj, or fasting on their behalf.
Mom's Journey and Passing
It is with deep sadness that we share the passing of our beloved Mom, Aysha Haider, on August 5, 2024, at 9:02 PM. She was surrounded by her loved ones at CPMC Van Ness Campus in San Francisco, where she was being treated for heart failure, as a consequence of a pulmonary edema episode and heart attack earlier in the week.
Mom's recent health challenges were sudden and unexpected for us all. Despite never complaining about heart issues, it became evident that she had been suffering from a chronic heart condition that went unnoticed during regular check-ups. Her diabetes masked the pain until July 30th, when fluid accumulation made breathing difficult. She had a heart attack that morning, leading to her hospitalization at Good Samaritan Hospital in San Jose, where doctors discovered a 100% blockage in her LAD artery. Two stents were placed, and an Impella device was used to support her heart.
Throughout this challenging journey, Mom remained resilient, and we held onto hope for her recovery. She was stable at times and showed signs of improvement, such as communicating through hand signs and even speaking after being taken off life support on August 2nd. However, the setbacks and challenges persisted, and her condition remained critical. Despite the best efforts by the amazing cardiology team and CVICU nurses at Good Samaritan Hospital, San Jose and CMPC, San Francisco Vaness Campus the time to join her creator arrived at 9:02 pm Aug 5, 2024.
Mom's recent health challenges were sudden and unexpected for us all. Despite never complaining about heart issues, it became evident that she had been suffering from a chronic heart condition that went unnoticed during regular check-ups. Her diabetes masked the pain until July 30th, when fluid accumulation made breathing difficult. She had a heart attack that morning, leading to her hospitalization at Good Samaritan Hospital in San Jose, where doctors discovered a 100% blockage in her LAD artery. Two stents were placed, and an Impella device was used to support her heart.
Throughout this challenging journey, Mom remained resilient, and we held onto hope for her recovery. She was stable at times and showed signs of improvement, such as communicating through hand signs and even speaking after being taken off life support on August 2nd. However, the setbacks and challenges persisted, and her condition remained critical. Despite the best efforts by the amazing cardiology team and CVICU nurses at Good Samaritan Hospital, San Jose and CMPC, San Francisco Vaness Campus the time to join her creator arrived at 9:02 pm Aug 5, 2024.
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Below is an email Adil (son of Aysha Haider) shared with his colleagues
Sent: Wednesday, 7 August 2024 1:56 pm
Subject: "Please bring him a blanket" ; A note of gratitude
Dear AKU Family,
I write to express my profound gratitude for the outpouring of love and support following the passing of my mother, Aysha M. Haider. Your heartfelt messages have brought immense comfort to my family and me during this difficult time, and for that, we are all deeply grateful
As many of you know, Last Tuesday, my mother was urgently transported by EMS from her home in California to her local community hospital due to severe shortness of breath. She was quickly diagnosed with an acute myocardial infarction and received life-saving care, including an angioplasty and stent in the cath lab, within 43 minutes of arrival. Despite these efforts, she later required a temporary Left Ventricular Assist Device (LVAD) to support her heart function
I was able to travel by the following day, and was by her side by Thursday afternoon. She seemed to be improving, and on Friday the decision was made to remove the VAD, which she tolerated. She was also extubated at that time as she seemed to have stabilized in the evening. She was even able to communicate sparingly; she asked about her grandchildren, enquired about my Dad and asked me if I was sure I wasn’t missing much work – I explained how I made sure to travel after an important promotions committee meeting (the A&P Committee on Wednesday), and she was happy I didn’t miss important responsibilities, especially if “they were to help others” —she was always selfless and thoughtful.
She did show some initial signs of instability that night, so the very compassionate ICU team allowed me the courtesy to sit by her bedside overnite, well past when the visiting hours were over. Around 1 am, the amazing ICU nurse taking care of her, Narissa – brought in another chair and a pillow for me, so I could put my feet up a bit. My mom, saw this and motioned Narissa to come to her and said “Please bring him a blanket also”. She may have spoken 10 sentences that entire evening… and this was the final thing she said. Something only a mom would say. An hour later she had an arrythmia, required brief CPR and was reintubated. The next morning we were able to get her transferred to Cal Pacific Medical Center in San Francisco which has a large heart failure support and transplant program as her EF was only 20%. She did receive further mechanical support and care from perhaps one of the most gifted group of heart specialists I have ever met, led by the amazing Dr. Mike Pham. By Monday evening though, she passed away with her husband and children by her side and her grand-children on a zoom call reciting her most cherished surahs from the Quran.
Ammi loved AKU. I remember her getting an AKU Prospectus – well before I was even eligible to apply as a med student with the hopes I would go there. My Classmates from MBBS’98 remember her as the “Class Mom” as she would routinely cook for all of my classmates and would always be there to lend an ear…. Even decades later she was frequently visited by my class mates whenever someone would stop by California or if she was in Karachi.
Below – is a pic someone just forwarded to me, that she had recently put up as a memory on her facebook page… it is from a donor event, around the PZP inauguration when I had just become Dean in Jan 2019. She was immensely proud of what we all achieved, and was always thrilled to meet AKU friends, at events at our home whenever she was in Karachi. To my surprise, this afternoon at her funeral (Tuesday in California), her friends told me about how thrilled she was when she saw our recently released 5 year report.
Subject: "Please bring him a blanket" ; A note of gratitude
Dear AKU Family,
I write to express my profound gratitude for the outpouring of love and support following the passing of my mother, Aysha M. Haider. Your heartfelt messages have brought immense comfort to my family and me during this difficult time, and for that, we are all deeply grateful
As many of you know, Last Tuesday, my mother was urgently transported by EMS from her home in California to her local community hospital due to severe shortness of breath. She was quickly diagnosed with an acute myocardial infarction and received life-saving care, including an angioplasty and stent in the cath lab, within 43 minutes of arrival. Despite these efforts, she later required a temporary Left Ventricular Assist Device (LVAD) to support her heart function
I was able to travel by the following day, and was by her side by Thursday afternoon. She seemed to be improving, and on Friday the decision was made to remove the VAD, which she tolerated. She was also extubated at that time as she seemed to have stabilized in the evening. She was even able to communicate sparingly; she asked about her grandchildren, enquired about my Dad and asked me if I was sure I wasn’t missing much work – I explained how I made sure to travel after an important promotions committee meeting (the A&P Committee on Wednesday), and she was happy I didn’t miss important responsibilities, especially if “they were to help others” —she was always selfless and thoughtful.
She did show some initial signs of instability that night, so the very compassionate ICU team allowed me the courtesy to sit by her bedside overnite, well past when the visiting hours were over. Around 1 am, the amazing ICU nurse taking care of her, Narissa – brought in another chair and a pillow for me, so I could put my feet up a bit. My mom, saw this and motioned Narissa to come to her and said “Please bring him a blanket also”. She may have spoken 10 sentences that entire evening… and this was the final thing she said. Something only a mom would say. An hour later she had an arrythmia, required brief CPR and was reintubated. The next morning we were able to get her transferred to Cal Pacific Medical Center in San Francisco which has a large heart failure support and transplant program as her EF was only 20%. She did receive further mechanical support and care from perhaps one of the most gifted group of heart specialists I have ever met, led by the amazing Dr. Mike Pham. By Monday evening though, she passed away with her husband and children by her side and her grand-children on a zoom call reciting her most cherished surahs from the Quran.
Ammi loved AKU. I remember her getting an AKU Prospectus – well before I was even eligible to apply as a med student with the hopes I would go there. My Classmates from MBBS’98 remember her as the “Class Mom” as she would routinely cook for all of my classmates and would always be there to lend an ear…. Even decades later she was frequently visited by my class mates whenever someone would stop by California or if she was in Karachi.
Below – is a pic someone just forwarded to me, that she had recently put up as a memory on her facebook page… it is from a donor event, around the PZP inauguration when I had just become Dean in Jan 2019. She was immensely proud of what we all achieved, and was always thrilled to meet AKU friends, at events at our home whenever she was in Karachi. To my surprise, this afternoon at her funeral (Tuesday in California), her friends told me about how thrilled she was when she saw our recently released 5 year report.
She of course herself had major impact on so many fronts. You will see below, a post from Indus Hospital where she helped establish a program for free clubfoot treatment in Pakistan and supported it for past 15 years, personally congratulating the thousands of children who “graduated” from their treatment over the years.
Earlier, she was appointed as an Hon. Commissioner to solve Domestic Violence in Santa Clara county. Her advocacy, especially towards female empowerment in the hugely male dominated silicon valley were truly legendary. Today, we see this same spirit in all of her grandchildren, many who want to follow her footsteps.
During this sorrowful time, the condolences I received from you, my AKU family, are a source of great solace. Your kind words, thoughtful messages, and expressions of sympathy have been a tremendous support as I navigate this heartbreak. I am sincerely grateful for each message, call, and note of sympathy.
Your compassion underscores the strong community spirit we foster at AKU. It is during times like these that I am most appreciative of the strength and closeness of our community. It has been comforting to know that while I was away, the spirit of understanding and support was ever-present within our university.
Thank you once again for your solidarity and compassion. I look forward to continuing our journey together, strengthened by the bonds we share within our AKU family.
With love and affection,
Adil Haider
During this sorrowful time, the condolences I received from you, my AKU family, are a source of great solace. Your kind words, thoughtful messages, and expressions of sympathy have been a tremendous support as I navigate this heartbreak. I am sincerely grateful for each message, call, and note of sympathy.
Your compassion underscores the strong community spirit we foster at AKU. It is during times like these that I am most appreciative of the strength and closeness of our community. It has been comforting to know that while I was away, the spirit of understanding and support was ever-present within our university.
Thank you once again for your solidarity and compassion. I look forward to continuing our journey together, strengthened by the bonds we share within our AKU family.
With love and affection,
Adil Haider
Location of Mom's Grave
Mom is buried at NN-62, Five Pillars cemetery in Livermore, California.
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